The holidays have arrived with fun-filled and stress-filled times sandwiched together, not unlike raising children, work, marriage and other life pursuits. So, here are some recommendations to make the holidays calmer and happier.
First, have realistic expectations of yourself. Many of us feel disappointed because our “fairytale images” don’t materialize. Instead, focus on feeling good from the inside out. Build a fire and roast marshmallows, shop with a friend, or take a long walk in the woods. Meditate, workout, read, or listen to music. Take time to feed your soul.
Second, have realistic expectations of others. No one’s family or friends are perfect, and the holidays won’t change this. Since we can’t change them, we need to rely on ourselves to gather what’s positive and let go of the negative. Experiment with creating new family traditions that don’t stir up bad memories. If a situation becomes too negative, leave.
In need of some immediate stress relief? Then click here to view Dr. Sanford’s 5-minute mindful breathing and 15-minute body scan relaxation on YouTube. After all, peace and love is the true meaning of the season and it starts from within.
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Thanks for belonging to our self-care community. We wish each of you all the best at the holidays and throughout the year!
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Thanks for these tips! It’s hard to remember not to focus on the external, but if we can approach everything with inner peace, the stress levels stay low!