It’s so easy to get caught up in the frenzy of daily life, we often forget that the answers to our problems aren’t instantaneous like a text message. Because most women are “fixers,”, it’s challenging to wait for the solution to emerge rather than forcing our agenda. One of the lessons my younger daughter taught me is to take a break when we’re at an impasse rather than pursuing her doggedly which rarely ends well.
Along these lines, I’ve been practicing the skills of “wait-watch-listen” to keep myself from overreacting to situations and build confidence that “the need goes out and the answer appears.” While I may have been more skeptical years ago, I’ve seen enough evidence now to trust this works. Sometimes it takes more time than I’m willing to give it, but I’m learning to be patient.
Today I had lunch with a good friend who brought me the solution to a problem I’ve had. Although I hadn’t figured it out myself, I had decided to wait until a clear answer emerged because none of my ideas had worked. So I kept telling myself, “Don’t take action or make any decisions until you’re certain of how to proceed.” I wasn’t, but when my good friend made her suggestion, I knew it was the way to go.
Life has a way of unfolding although not necessarily on our schedule. The next time you feel stuck, watch and listen for the answer you’re seeking. It’s well worth the wait!