When your baby is born, she/he will be alert and ready to bond with you during the first hour. Afterwards, she will go into a deep sleep for about 4 hours as she begins adjusting to life outside the womb. During the first 2 weeks, she will eat about every 2-3 hours and sleep a total of 10-18 hours a day. You may even have to wake her for feedings. By week 3 having acclimated more to life outside the womb, her eating habits will become more regular although still inconsistent and prone to changes during… Read more More ZZZ’s for Mom and Baby: Consistency is Key →
It’s so easy to get caught up in the frenzy of daily life, we often forget that the answers to our problems aren’t instantaneous like a text message. Because most women are “fixers,”, it’s challenging to wait for the solution to emerge rather than forcing our agenda. One of the lessons my younger daughter taught me is to take a break when we’re at an impasse rather than pursuing her doggedly which rarely ends well. Along these lines, I’ve been practicing the skills of “wait-watch-listen” to keep myself from overreacting to situations and build confidence… Read more Wait-Watch-Listen →
This is one of our favorite videos about motherhood. Since Wednesday’s post was on loosening the bonds of self-criticism, it seemed fitting to consider all the things that moms do each day which go unrecognized. It’s exhausting to think about but deserving of our attention. Instead of putting ourselves down, we need to remember to pat ourselves on the back whether anyone else does. To appreciate all our hard work which keeps our families going. But it’s Friday, so for now have fun with this YouTube video and take some me-time this weekend.
So, I thought I’d “mastered” blogging (lol) when I discovered Monday night I’d erased Monday’s post and on Tuesday am, didn’t schedule it right. After chastising myself for “ruining” Monday and Tuesday, I thought I can either keep feeling bad or let it go. Yes, it was a mistake but not fatal or harmful, except for my beating myself up. And isn’t this how life goes? Whether it’s being a “good enough” mom, wife, daughter, worker, blogger, we as women focus tirelessly on where we’ve fallen short, feeling worthless and unhappy. We… Read more Loosening the Bonds of Self-Criticism →
This past weekend, I participated in a training for Mother to Mother, our free volunteer phone support program for pregnant and post-birth moms in Missouri. One conversation which stood out for me was how surviving postpartum depression (PPD) can help us become stronger and more confident. Not that anyone would willingly choose this, but sometimes it chooses us. Experiencing mild depression after my first baby, took me by surprise. After completing my doctoral degree, getting my psychology license, and seeing 30 clients a week, I thought I could handle anything. Certainly, motherhood couldn’t be more challenging. … Read more Surviving PPD: The Princess Who Saved Herself →
I was teaching a self-care class on Wednesday to hair stylists, who certainly do their share of counseling, when one commented she’d seen this great sign, “Laughter is an instant vacation.” I agree wholeheartedly so when my younger daughter sent me this cat picture a few months ago, I saved it for when I need a good laugh and decided this week to share it with you. Hope this tickles your funny bone. May “the force” of laughter be with you. Enjoy your weekend!
I was listening to a mother in our postpartum support group as she described small victories; she was recovering from postpartum depression (PPD) and was feeling good about herself and how far she had come. I wondered why more women don’t celebrate recovery and victory over depression, anxiety, grief, and other emotional challenges. A few years ago while offering phone support, one mom mentioned that after recovering from PPD, her Mother-in-law said she didn’t like who she’d become. Why was that? What was different about her? She’d emerged a stronger, more confident woman, able… Read more PPD Recovery and Renewal →
Bonding prenatally and after delivery creates a foundation for the parent-child relationship. Here are some bonding tips: Place your baby on your chest after birth and put a warm blanket over both of you. Hold, touch, and talk to your baby. Your body releases hormones that encourage bonding and attachment to your baby. You and baby do not need to be separated during the first hour after delivery unless there is a medical concern. Have dad take off his shirt and hold baby skin to skin. Massage your baby. Sing… Read more Bonding With Your Baby →