I spent 2010 in a new-mom fog, topped off with postpartum depression. It seemed the day my son was born, I forgot how to care for myself as I learned to care for him. Now that I’m recovered from PPD and the shock of new parenthood, this year I’m refocusing on myself.
In 2011, I plan to spend less time on laundry and dusting and more time taking a bubble bath and reading a book. Less time overscheduled, angry, and worried and more time playing, giggling, and snuggling.
But how can this be accomplished without neglecting my obligations? I hear so many mothers ask themselves and each other this. Ironically, I feel the answer is scheduling—relax, it’s the good kind! Grab your calendar and pick one date each week to devote 2 hours (or a whole evening if you can) to doing something JUST FOR YOU. I’m not talking about an hour online replying to emails! I mean a shopping trip for a new (maybe impractical) pair of shoes or a solo trip to the local coffeehouse with your favorite novel or best friend. If you have children,
the minute you have your dates selected for the month, grab your phone and plan your childcare for the entire month. Trust me, this will keep you accountable!
Simple enough, right? To nurture others, you must first nurture yourself.
Today’s author is James of James & Jax, a blog about discovering her new self after becoming a mom.